When Melanie came to see me she had a fear of thunderstorms that had started when she was a child. Whenever she heard thunder she would feel extremely anxious, shaky, and tearful until the storm had passed. As an adult this could be embarrassing. For example, just a few years ago she had people over to visit during a big storm and tears kept streaming down her cheeks. When she heard about tapping, she was excited to see if it could work for this life-long fear.
There is a wonderful energy this time of year. Regular schedules have been in flux, the holiday festivities are winding down, and many people are taking time to reflect on the gifts, challenges, and lessons of 2016 and what that might mean for 2017. Traditionally this is a time for making New Year’s Resolutions.
Probably the most frequent question in my insomnia workshops is what to do about those pesky middle of the night wake-ups. There is no one right answer, especially since it largely depends on what has woken the sleeper in the first place. Today I want to focus on a specific situation common to most every class: “What about those nights when I have NO IDEA why I am awake? Those nights when I am not stressed, upset, or worried about anything in particular, but I just wake up for no reason.”
I know those nights well and they are frustrating to say the least! Here is my advice:
I had just done the very thing I advise people not to do. I was all relaxed and ready for bed, but decided to check my email one last time. In truth, I had been having a somewhat tense online conversation, and was hoping to find a peaceful resolution in my in-box. Unfortunately, the opposite occurred. Our miscommunication had taken an even worse turn and now there was a toxic blast waiting for me. Sure enough, I almost instantly could feel my heart racing, my brainwaves moving faster, and stress hormones coursing through my body. Not what you want when preparing for sleep!
Sometimes a single traumatic event can wreak havoc on the sleep system for years after the trauma has passed. This was certainly the case with “Danielle,” who had not slept well ever since her husband had died eight years ago. Most nights it took her hours to fall asleep, often not falling asleep until after 2:00 a.m. Other nights she would fall asleep quicker, but then wake around 3:00 a.m. unable to return to sleep.
I was doing really well with my sleep until the day came for me to do my taxes. I don’t think I’ve ever really liked doing my taxes, but I like them a lot less since I have been self-employed. After about two months of looking at those piles of receipts and records with a gnawing feeling, I finally sat down and did them.
I ended my last post by posing a question to the Universe: How do I find the balance between working hard and achieving results, and being fully grounded in my life and peacefully sleeping at night? I haven’t ever achieved this in my adult life. Probably the last uninterrupted stretch was my sophomore year in high school… and that was a long time ago! So, I am venturing out to discover a New Way of Being.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Despite organizing my whole business around helping people sleep better, I don’t always sleep that great myself. While I now have MANY more nights than I ever used to have where I close my eyes and wake up in the morning feeling blissfully rested and refreshed, and I almost never have difficulties falling asleep initially anymore, I still experience those pesky middle of the night wake-ups where I don’t fall instantly back to sleep. The big difference between the old me and the new me is that I don’t panic or even get anxious about it anymore. Instead, I get curious.
When “Jim” contacted me, he was pretty frustrated and upset. For the past couple of months he had been on a roller coaster ride of stress, insomnia, and sleeping pills. While the sleeping pills knocked him out most nights, he was afraid of becoming addicted and spent several nights each week not taking them. On those nights he might not sleep at all, and this was, of course, very disturbing. Then it happened that even on the nights he did take medication, he was no longer getting the knock-out conk-out effect that is so alluring for insomniacs, and sometimes not even sleeping at all. This is the point where Jim called me.
New Research Reports EFT Effective Treatment for Insomnia
Do you have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep at night? Do you often find yourself tossing and turning, watching the clock in frustration while anxiously anticipating how tired you will be the next day? If so, you are not alone. In our modern, fast-paced world insomnia is an ever-growing problem. An estimated 70 million Americans suffer from some form of sleep difficulty, with about 10% of the population suffering from severe, chronic, debilitating insomnia. The problem is even more prevalent in our senior population, with over one-half of adults over 60 reporting chronic sleep issues.