Three weeks ago today I embarked on a journey. For the past several years I have been gearing up to write a book, but three weeks ago I actually sat down to do it and have been plugging away ever since. I now have almost five chapters written and I am on a roll!
My original intention was to write a book about how to use EFT to overcome insomnia since that was my most immediate and noticeable result when I first discovered tapping.
Insomnia began when I was in high school and had plagued me for almost thirty years. Throughout that time I was always looking for something to make it go away and I had tried everything ranging from warm milk to prescription sleeping pills. While some remedies took the edge off my symptoms for a short time, none of them solved my problem because none of them got to the root of why I wasn’t sleeping in the first place.
Then in 2011 I went through an intense personal crisis: I lost the job that had been the center of my world, my husband and I lost our house, and for a short time it looked like we might even lose our marriage. For a period of about six months my sleep went from bad to almost non-existent, and my once purpose-filled days became a haze of foggy confusion.
My life had become unrecognizable to me.
When I hit bottom, my heart broke open in a way it had not done before — not during my divorce twelve years earlier, nor during other disappointments. I had come to a point of surrender. In surrender, there is great power and potential. This is when lives can change dramatically for the better.
In my case, I was introduced to some mind-body techniques that helped me beyond measure. While I experienced, explored, and became certified in a variety of techniques, what ultimately helped me most was EFT, which stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques and is probably best known as “Tapping.” The right people entered my life and I was at last able to process my emotions in a compassionate, non-judgmental way, calm and soothe my nervous system, neutralize the emotional intensity around these traumatic events, and begin to rewrite my story of victimhood into one of empowerment. My sleep improved dramatically as did relations with my husband and both are doing better than ever now.
When you lose sleep for weeks, months or even years on end, you begin to lose hope of ever getting real rest again. Your days and nights blur into one long period of exhausted frustration, and life becomes a drag. When I began to sleep again in the midst of my crisis it seemed like nothing short of a miracle.
So, my original intention for my practice and my book was to help insomniacs sleep again. But my practice evolved differently. In addition to insomnia, people came to see me for emotional over-eating, fears, phobias, anxiety, lack of self-esteem, a variety of physical symptoms, as well as wanting support in moving through intense periods in their lives. I found that no matter how the symptom shows up, at the root lies some dis-empowering belief about oneself or the world. EFT is remarkable in that it not only can deeply process intense emotions through the mind and the body’s energy system, but it can rewire the brain to view the world in a fundamentally different way. When this happens, people’s lives change for the better: symptoms dissolve, relationships improve, and life becomes easier and more enjoyable.
This happened for me as a direct result of moving through personal crisis, when things I had once considered solid broke into pieces, and I was at a point of surrender. I was then open to new tools such as EFT and to new points of view, all of which have been life-changing. I now realize my true passion and enthusiasm is not just about using EFT to overcome insomnia, but in using any symptom or hardship as a catalyst for personal growth with EFT as a tool. Since I found EFT at a time of personal crisis and it helped me beyond measure, I am creating a guide for others to do the same. My working title is “Finding Peace in the Pieces of Emotional Crisis: A Guide to Transformation During Times of Transition.”